Sunday, November 29, 2009
Finally a moment to write...
Wednesday, October 14, 2009
Clouds
Monday, September 28, 2009
Noah's Homecoming Anniversary
We celebrated Noah's homecoming day this weekend. He has officially been ours for one year! Here are some pictures of the past few weeks. It's been busy between soccer and all of his siblings activities. He's also has learned about the lucrative business of a lemonade stand on a hot summer day. : >) We spent this past weekend at the beach...Noah had never seen the ocean before. He stood at the edge of the water, his arms spread wide, just chanting ETHIOPIA over and over. We aren't sure why. He is still so connected to where he came from yet so much a part of his new world in America.
Friday, September 11, 2009
Family
Happy Ethiopian New Year!
Friday, September 4, 2009
Teklu and Menywab spent the weekend with us
Noah insisted on dressing up when we went up the gorge for brunch
Finalization Day!!! Noah officially became a Barclay and our family was complete
First day of school!! He was ready...and very excited to start 2nd grade.
Wednesday, August 12, 2009
The question is asked many times over, "How is Noah doing?" To be honest, at this point of the game Noah seems to be doing fantastic. Really. This summer, his first summer in America, has been full of a lot of adventures.
Monday, July 20, 2009
Summertime!
Friday, June 26, 2009
A moment to reflect....
A friend passed on a wonderful book to me recently, Guide My Feet by Marian Wright Edelman. It is a book of prayers and meditations on loving and working with children. This particular prayer caught my eye...it's by Ina J. Hughes.
A Prayer/Pledge of Responsibility for Children
We pray (accept responsibility) for children
who sneak popsicles before supper,
who erase holes in math workbooks,
who can never find their shoes.
And we pray (accept responsibility) for those
who stare at photographers from behind barbed wire,
who can't bound down the street in a new pair of sneakers,
who never "counted potatoes",
who are born in places we wouldn't be caught dead,
who never go to the circus,
who live in an X-rated world.
We pray (accept responsibility) for children
who bring us sticky kisses and fistfuls of dandelions,
who hug us in a hurry and forget their lunch money.
And we pray (accept responsibility) for those
who never get dessert,
who have no safe blanket to drag behind them,
who watch their parents watch them die,
who can't find any bread to steal,
who don't have have any rooms to clean up,
whose pictures aren't on anybody's dresser,
whose monsters are real.
We pray (accept responsibility) for children
who spend all their allowance before Tuesday,
who throw tantrums in the grocery store and pick at their food,
who like ghosts stories,
who shove dirty clothes under the bed, and never rinse out the tub,
who get visits from the tooth fairy,
who don't like to be kissed in front of the carpool,
who squirm in church or temple and scream in the phone,
whose tears we sometimes laugh at
and whose smiles can make us cry.
And we pray (accept responsibility) for those
whose nightmares come in the daytime,
who will eat anything,
who have never seen a dentist,
who aren't spoiled by anybody,
who go to bed hungry and cry themselves to sleep,
who live and move, but have no being.
We pray (accept responsibility) for children
who want to be carried
and for those who must,
for those we never give up on
and for those who don't get a second chance.
For those we smother...
and for those who will grab the hand of anybody kind enough to offer it.
Adapted from Ina J. Hughes
Thursday, June 11, 2009
Coming down to the end...
We are one week away from the end of the school year. What a year it has been!
Thursday, May 28, 2009
One way to choose...
How many major decisions have you made based upon eeny meeny miny mo or Rock Paper Scissor? In your lifetime probably more than you can count. Today, when we were walking to school Noah told me about a time he had to use his own version to make a big decision in his life. Once again I have to add, every day I gain a new sense of perspective from him, and this morning was no different.
We started our walk as we usually do, chatting about bugs and how tall the field grass is or whether or not the boys should have brought a sweatshirt to keep away the morning chill. Today, Noah turned his backpack so he was wearing it on his front. He made a little pouch and smiled, saying “This is how I carried Galiela.” (Galiela is his baby cousin who was given up for adoption prior to Noah’s relinquishment. He still talks both his aunt and his baby cousin almost daily) He told me how he would carry her all over Desse, his home town. From sun up until sun down his aunt would go to the Teff fields to harvest the grain and Noah would be in charge of baby Galiela. Noah said their neighbor, Mrs. Wordos, would be home so Noah would check in with her throughout the day. Now and then Noah would carry Galiela out to the fields, in his front pack, to visit his aunt Genet. When he would have to leave and Genet had to get back to work Galiela would scream for her mommy, like any baby her age, any where in the world would do.
Sadly Noah’s time with Galiela was short lived. Genet had no way to feed the two extra mouths. One day she took Galiela to the orphanage where she relinquished her. Noah was devastate at the loss of his baby cousin. Through Noah’s recollections Galiela was adopted to a family in Spain.
Things didn’t get better for Noah and Genet. This morning Noah recalled a moment with Genet. Genet told Noah she could not take care of him anymore. She told Noah she had three choices for him as far as where he could go. America. Spain. Somalia. Noah has an uncle in Somalia and Genet considered sending him to live with the uncle. Here in front of 6 year old Noah were three options. America. Spain. Somalia.
This morning...with his fingers...Noah showed me how he became our son. He touched his pinky finger on his left hand and said, “America.” He touched his ring finger on his left hand and said, “Spain.” He touched his middle finger on his left hand and said, “Somalia.” He continued this through all ten fingers and whatever country he said when he touched his right pinky finger was his choice... “America.”
Wednesday, May 27, 2009
Happy Camper
We took Noah camping this weekend. He did awesome...then again if you think about it he 'camped' for the first 6 years of his life. In fact...our 'roughing it' really doesn't compare to his every day existence in Desse. Regardless, Noah was the definition of "Happy Camper" over the long weekend. We took a short drive to Silver Falls State Park set in the Oregon Cascade Range. Noah's Godmother and her family, as well as another family, joined us. All in all our camping party was 17 people strong. Now that's a lot of mouths to feed.
Wednesday, May 6, 2009
Perspective and Happy Mother's Day
My perspective has never been the same since I returned from Ethiopia 7 months ago.
- Given the late start of belg and the approaching hunger season (yes, their ministry has a name for the time of year when famine could strike) food security and nutrition conditions may deteriorate rapidly in some parts of the country.
- Since the beginning of April admission rates of malnourished children have increased rapidly and are alarmingly high in some areas.
- Over 1000 children have been admitted to health care centers in one weeks time due to malnutrition.
- The average price of cereals is still high and the price of livestock is increasing. No rainfall from belg producing areas so prospect of belg harvest is not promising due to inadequate land preparation and late planting due to erratic nature of the rain.
- 26 deaths have been reported due to Acute Watery Diarrhea last week. Due to lack of proper drugs, poor water supplies, poor hygiene and sanitation, and inadequate human resources they only expect these numbers to grow.
- No reports of Influenza H1N1 (swine flu) Phew!!
Tuesday, April 21, 2009
Running
Today Noah ran to school. Another beautiful morning in the Pacific Northwest. When the sun comes out, regardless of the temperature, we are outside seizing the moment. This morning Noah, Sam and I ran (ok... Sam and I walked briskly...Sam doesn't run unless there's a reward at the other end of the finish line) to school. I would tell Noah to run ahead to a cluster of mailboxes and then run back to me. When he caught me I'd tell him what to run to next. To the stop sign and then back to me. To the crossing guard and then back to me. Noah ran twice the distance Sam and I walked. This helps Noah settle into a day of learning at school.
Friday, April 17, 2009
I've come to the realization that Spring Vacation is not a vacation to rest up from what has already occurred but more so it is a rest up before life becomes almost too crazy to control. We hit the ground running April 6 and have not stopped. Keep in mind Noah is only one of 5 children in the house. : >)
Monday, April 6, 2009
"Hobaba's House"
It's been awhile since I last posted.
Tuesday, March 24, 2009
A New Phase of our lives...
Thursday, March 12, 2009
One
I am a huge U2 fan...have been one forever. U2 was introduced to me by my brother Tim , a musician, back in my high school years. Tim had a wanderlust spirit and in his late teens and early 20's chose to live a lifestyle as such. He traveled to the east coast on a few occasions with his band and would come back with fantastic stories of life on the road. One such story from the early '80s is the time he came back from Chicago and told me, "Do not forget this group or this name...these guys are going to be BIG." He told me about how he and his band hung out with this band from Ireland after one of their gigs. The lead singer's name...Bono. The band...U2.
One come he to justify
One man to overthrow
In the name of love
What more in the name of love
In the name of love
Monday, March 9, 2009
Monday, March 2, 2009
Letters to home...from home.
Noah has been working on a letter to send to Ato Teklu, a wonderful man who works for WACAP in Ethiopia. It is being hand delivered within the week. After Noah was relinquished by his aunt he was placed in an orphanage. Mr. Teklu, knowing we were requesting to adopt a child around Noah's age, is the man who traveled to that orphanage and found Noah. His relationship with Noah did not end there. Once Noah was moved to the WACAP transition home Teklu became a central figure in his life for the three months leading up to my travel to bring him home. When I was in Addis I got to know Teklu very well. He is a wonderful man who loved my son when we physically could not. One of the most dynamic moments of our time in Addis happened during our final few hours on Ethiopian soil. Teklu and his driver took us to the airport around 7:30 pm. It was a very bitter sweet goodbye and I don’t think Noah really understood that this was really goodbye until we were at the ticket counter and tears just began to stream down his face as he cried for Teklu. He realized that the wonderful kind Ato Teklu would no longer be on this adoption journey with him. It was a sad realization for all of us.
Wednesday, February 25, 2009
Goat...the new white meat
This morning as I was driving the boys to school I overheard a conversation between Noah and Sam.
Tuesday, February 24, 2009
When I traveled to Ethiopia I brought my friend Cindy with me while Jeff stayed home with the other 4 kids. Cindy teaches 5th grade at the school Noah attends. When we arrived back in the states it was apparent Noah was ready to start school. He landed in America on September 26 and was in school by October 6. In the back of Cindy's mind she had been coming up with a possible plan with her 5th grade students to engage them in Noah's story. It could be a learning experience all the way around. She discussed a plan with Noah's 1st grade teacher of perhaps having some of the 5th grade students come over at set times during the day to work one-on -one with Noah. They created a schedule that would work with both classrooms. Cindy then asked her kids how many would be interested in being a mentor/tutor for Noah. Out of a class of 25 students 22 raised their hands. The final five tutors were selected through an application process and a contract was signed by both student and parent. Everyone understood the importance of this opportunity.
Almost 4 months have gone by since this began and I cannot begin to tell you the leaps and bounds Noah has made because of these 5 kids. He not only is learning academics, but he is also learning social skills and just how to communicate and be an American kid. He has also taught these kids a lesson or two on taking what life gives you and making the best of it. They know he came to our family with nothing but the clothes on his back. They know of his hardships. They have learned that succeeding is not about dwelling on the past but dealing with what is here and now. Noah's story has also come home to the dinner tables of the students helping and it has made a difference in their families life as well. I have spoken with a couple of parents of the 5th graders and they have said the experience has been invaluable for their child. Last week we were at a basketball game for my son Nick and one of the parents came up and introduced himself to Noah and I. He said this experience has changed his sons life.
Our local paper is doing a story about this amazing group of 5th graders. Two weeks ago a photographer and reporter spent several hours with Noah and the kids. Their story will be featured within the next week.
Through these wonderful kids Noah has learned how to count to 100 by 1's, 5's, and 10's, read books, socially interact, write stories, create story boards... to succeed in school. They are doing this not for the recognition, accolades, or grade but for the chance to say, "I made a difference in someones life." As an outside observer, and Noah's mom, I have to agree. They have made a big difference in Noah's life.
Monday, February 16, 2009
Presidents Day
Happy Presidents Day! Yesterday Jeff was explaining to Noah that this was a three day weekend. He would have Monday off from school...we were celebrating two great American men who were our presidents...a very important day etc. etc. etc. Noah appeared to be listening quite attentively but Jeff soon realized he wasn't because when the explanation was complete Noah looked at him and asked, "Presents Day...more presents for Noah!" I'm sure he was thinking the entire time Jeff was talking, "America...you gotta love this place!"
Saturday, February 14, 2009
A trip to the zoo
Noah had his first trip to the zoo not long ago. He was quite apprehensive to say the least when we told him we were going . In his mind he had conjured up the notion that the zoo had wild animals walking around. He was worried we would turn a corner and run into a lion. It took a lot of convincing to make him believe the zoo was a safe and fun place. I think what I loved the most about the trip was that he could care less about the things my kids go wild over and he went crazy over the animals my kids see, experience, and take for granted in the Pacific Northwest. For instance...we live very close to the Oregon coast. My kids have grown up visiting family who live on the Pacific Ocean. Sea lions, otter, star fish, and other marine wildlife are just kind of ho hum to them. But when Noah entered the underground viewing area for the sea lions he just about jumped out of his coat with excitement. The sea lions were performing for us...so they would swim right up to the glass and rub against the window. This absolutely excited Noah to no means. He could have sat their all day...but it was only the first stop of the afternoon. We had a lot more to see. We walked a little farther down the zoo path to the primate exhibit. The group of little boys I took with me for the afternoon were beyond excited...mimicking the monkeys...walking around like baboons etc. Noah just stood in his place, on the verge of a yawn. He saw monkeys in Ethiopia all the time. He had a band of baboons come into his shack and tear it apart. He says his aunt beat them off with a stick. Crazy how this world is. An American kid's excitement is an Ethiopian kid's tormentor. Noah just couldn't understand how come all the boys loved those monkeys because they are nothing but trouble where he came from.